The state of affairs: rethinking infidelity

Part I: Setting the stage. A new conversation about marriage and infidelity

Defining infidelity: is chatting cheating?

Affairs are not what they used to be. Part II: The fallout. Why betrayal hurts so much: death by a thousand cuts

Little shop of horrors: do some affairs hurt more than others?

Jealousy: the spark of eros

Self-blame or vengeance: the dagger cuts both ways

To tell or not to tell?: The politics of secrecy and revelation. Part III: Meanings and motives. Even happy people cheat: mining the meanings of affairs

An antidote to deadness: the lure of the forbidden

Is sex ever just sex?: The emotional economics of adultery

The mother of all betrayals?: Affairs among other marital misdemeanors

The lover's dilemma: conversations with the other woman. Part IV: Ever after. Monogamy and its discontents: rethinking marriage

After the storm: the legacy of an affair.